It takes a birthvillage

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labour/ delivery room, with rope and birthing stool.

I was excited when I searched the net a couple years ago and found Birth village in the south of India near to my in-laws house. I didn’t know much about the state of birth in India but thought it would be interesting to check out how a birth center functions in Kerala, India. After contacting and speaking with the head midwife, my family and i made plans to stay near the center so i can do some research.

As an advocate of natural birth I want to emphasize that I have seen and I know of circumstances that hospital interventions are absolutely necessary and vital. Some women are very comfortable in the hospital and that is wonderful, it is a privilege to have a diverse choice of knowledgeable and capable health care providers.

Some women are best suited to having their babies in birth centers or at home with the support of a skilled midwife. I am honored to have had the opportunity to assist the midwives for a short period of time in India, these women are very experienced, knowledgeable and continuously upgrading their skills. They offer a course of care that is incredible, including classes in; preconception, prenatal & birth support, nutrition, exercise, breastfeeding, medical interventions and more. These classes are coupled with the prenatal and postnatal appointments, various massage packages and of course the labour support and birth itself.

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Ayurvedic massage table at birthvillage

As per usual, I asked tonnes of questions about birth, labour, tools, and why had these ladies decided to take on this important and very life-consuming work. Priyanka, the bold and ardent midwife from India itself delivered her son in an Indian hospital 8 years ago which lead her to work in birth, first as a doula and now as a midwife in training. She explained to me that with such a large population some government hospitals run out of beds and women labour and birth on the hospital floor, episiotomies are procedure (recovery can take months) and fundal pressure is often used. Labour rooms can have more than 20 women labouring simultaneously, to keep the room under control women in labour are often told to be quiet or even to ‘shut up’ when moaning. Cesarean and induction rates are climbing and less than 50% of babies are breast feed in the first hour in India.

Some of the recent (Nov 2015) newpaper articles from India are as follows (link to the articles by clicking on the quoted paragraph):

“Medical interns will tell you of the horrors they frequently witness during their gynaecology postings. Of pregnant women being asked to deliver on the floor, yelled at for screaming in pain, or being asked to clean up their own ‘mess'”

“In a gruesome incident, the head of a baby got separated from its body during delivery when the doctor allegedly pulled it out of the mother’s womb forcefully.”

Needless to say, birthvillage is an imperative fixture to modern India.

Donna, a sassy and incredibly inspiring midwife from the U.S and a mother of 9 children all born naturally, came to India to work as the head midwife at the center in 2013. In the 80’s and beyond she educated herself and certified as a midwife while she home schooled her children, back in the days and places when midwifery and homeschooling were not legal, common or trending.

These women have incredible personal stories and have dedicated their lives to supporting women through birth, naturally and humanely. Being a midwife, or being birth support means you are continuously ‘On-Call’, there’s the possibility of missing birthdays, holidays, your child’s concert or sporting event, plans and other celebrations because you are dedicated to your clients during labour. These angelic women make a huge and brave sacrifice, they often have to defy the cultural norms and deal with harassment from people and professionals who are uneducated about their experience and dedication to the women they assist.  I have heard and read various complaints about the natural birth movement being an ‘industry,’ Doulas and Midwives are charging too much or being biased to clients who are low-risk. In my humble opinion and experience this is because working in birth is a timeless commitment, natural labour progression and birth cannot be scheduled or predicted. I am sure many of us would like to do this work as charity and often we do, we do need to pay our bills and support our families as well. Surely, if we were ‘in it for the money,’ we would have chosen a different and less taxing profession.

Birthvillage mostly assists paying clients and it’s not inexpensive, it is a business and in order to have it run smoothly they need staff and reliable equipment. They do have a philanthropic project called Tejus Home helping young girls who have been abused and become pregnant. The various stories about these girls sometimes as young as 13 years old are heart wrenching, they courageously come to the center for prenatal support and respectfully deliver their babies in this place without judgement.

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The birthing pool room

The paying clients at birth village are mostly women who are educated on birth and want an experience that is empowering, natural and normal. Women of diverse religions, from other states or countries, speaking different languages wanting to be treated with respect during this intense and life altering event. I observed some incredibly peaceful and strong women of Muslim faith birth their babies alongside their exceptionally supportive husbands, It was very powerful when one mother listened to a recording of the Quran during her last phase of labour. A mother of Hindu faith chanted to ‘Ganapathi’ to assist her, A Christian prayed to God and I am sure i heard ‘Jesus Christ’ during at one birth:)

No matter which religion, caste or class these ladies seized their energies, embraced courage, squatted and freely birthed their babies themselves.

1 in 6 of the births i attended was a hospital transfer due to an extended labour (30 hrs +), irregular progression and minor health complications. The transfer was very difficult for the couple, the doctor berated the couple, family and midwife in the public waiting area.

Even though a cesarean needed to be performed for a safe delivery, it is highly beneficial for the mother and baby to have experienced the stress of labour, stimulating adrenal glands and facilitating bonding.( see this article  for more information on the benefits of labour)

If this couple had hospital care from the start there is no doubt that a cesarean would have been preformed prior to the onset of labour.

During my doula training a couple years ago, i saw pictures and heard of the benefits of birth stools and birthing ropes but never saw them in action. In the hosptial i have seen some awesome nurses tie a gown around the squat bar to try to simulate a rope but without the arms being up it doesn’t seem to be as effective. I often see first time mothers pushing for hours, i noticed at the birth center that the use of the stool, rope and assisted squatting during the pushing phase is very impressive. While i understand that doctors in the hospital are not keen to get on their hands and knees to deliver babies because it may be ‘unsanitary,’ it is an excellent skill that midwives acquire and advocate to catch a baby while the mother is in the most powerful and useful position.

Another interesting bit of information that Donna taught and really hit home was the importance of diaphragm work, mostly deep breathing prenatally. Personally, I began diaphragm work when i started singing lessons at 8 years old. My Yoga practice has taken it even further but somehow i missed the memo on the importance of the diaphragm during the pushing stage of labour. As a doula i have seen some women push for a second and some for more than 3 hours, i pushed about 3 times (less than 10 min) before my son was born. While there are many factors that can delay or complicate the pushing stage, diaphragmatic breathing and a good strong diaphragm is a huge key to a successful pushing stage!

Nutrition, exercise and a healthy emotional life with low stress are promoted and preached here and in my experience the women who followed the advice given by the midwives had good outcomes.

Donna asks the mothers to repeat and meditate on the mantra,’I am the most important person in the world to my baby, my physical, emotional and mental well-being are VITAL to my baby!’    (a useful phrase for every mother/ parent)

This heartening and magical experience motivated me to continue working with women through pregnancy, birth and post partum. While the environment will be different in Canada i feel confident that i have learnt some practical skills to implement into my practice as a birth doula.

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http://qz.com/326402/cesarean-births-in-india-are-skyrocketing-and-there-is-reason-to-be-very-worried/

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/delhi/Less-than-50-are-breastfed-in-first-hour-of-birth-in-India/articleshow/48766517.cms?utm_source=facebook.com&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=TOI

 

Prenatal Yoga relaxation recording (9min)

Please follow this link for the recording.

This is a complimentary guided relaxation and positive visualization for expecting mothers. Simply prepare yourself by wearing loose clothing and lying in a comfortable position with pillows to support your body and blankets to keep you warm. Listen to my voice guide you through a conscious body and mind relaxation and visualization for the optimal outcome of your baby’s birth day. This practice is under 10min.

https://soundcloud.com/victoria-nestorowicz-lal/prenatal-yoga-nidrarelaxation-2014-11-24-912-pm

Written and recorded by Victoria; Yoga teacher, Birth doula and mother.

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Originally I entitled this a ‘Yoga Nidra’ practice. Due to the recent controversy surrounding Swami Satyanada, who has refined and written the book ‘Yoga Nidra’ (Bihar school of Yoga) I have decided to amend the title. There is inspiration from the book, specifically in body awareness portion of the practice. My intentions with this practice is to become aware of the physical self and that of the baby in the womb, slowing down and focusing the mind to visualize a positive outcome for labor and delivery and to find peace and relaxation amidst the transitions. Pregnancy, labor, delivery and parenting can be very chaotic and i believe focusing on a positive goal and deep rest are essential.

Healthy baby, healthy mama

Each birth and birth experience I have attended is different and unique. The natural birth community have been fighting hard to be heard and respected, therefore sometimes it can feel misleading and some women can feel judged on their experience if it wasn’t ‘natural’.

I adore Ina May Gaskin’s books, here is a great interview with her and a woman who felt betrayed and guilty about how her experience played out because of the use of medical interventions. I like to talk to clients about being flexible (not just physically) and to remember the goal of healthy baby, healthy mama. I am not a big fan of ‘the birth plan’, but I do believe in a birth visualization/meditation practice. Birth is unique, it is not competitive.

http://www.longestshortesttime.com/2014/04/16/podcast-28-the-missing-chapter-to-ina-mays-guide/

The Yoga of Breastfeeding

Not only are our breasts contorted every which way while breastfeeding an active child but we are sacrificing a part of ourselves for the sake of our child’s health and wellness…  I view this as a type of Karma Yoga.

Sitting in one spot has never been easy for me, during my yoga teacher training we did meditation for about 20 min, 2 times a day. Each session brought different challenges but after spending a day of asana practice, karma yoga, philosophy classes, anatomy etc… sitting quietly to reflect on that day and my life felt wonderful. Being in an ashram is a great experience, i found that being able to detach from the stresses of life going on outside and just deal with the duties I had in the ashram was very relaxing and fruitful.

Fast forward to over 3 years later, when I had my son. Although i loved to snuggle with him, the first couple of days, weeks and months sitting in one chair with your babe in hand, breastfeeding pillow in lap and boobs out didn’t feel very relaxing. In the first week especially, I was doing something I had never done before and although a latch shouldn’t feel painful it’s not comfortable at first. Initially, Babe can take almost an hour at the breast but friends assured me he would get more efficient and he did. I am a mover; always considering what needs to be done next; cleaning the bathroom, throwing a load of laundry in, cooking… Without Swamiji in front of me and the energy of my meditating classmates surrounding me, I felt very restless…

I had a friend mention something about meditation when she was breastfeeding and immediately i felt the idea was strange, the yoga snob inside me said that it was not proper meditation. Like almost every child, my son didn’t sleep when I wanted him to and always wanted to breastfeed at times that weren’t convenient for me. I found that if I consciously connected with my breath; took a deep inhalation for about 4 counts and exhaled equally, it not only calmed my mind but either put my son to sleep if he needed it or seemed to calm him down. Therefore, It was meditative I could either close my eyes or focus on him. It’s regular, it feels spiritual, positive and I realize my purpose in that place at that time; to feed and love my child.

My son is almost 2.5 and I am proud to say I still breastfeed. I know it’s not something every mother is able or willing to do and that’s okay, it doesn’t mean you love your child less or more. Honestly, i had hoped to go for 2 years as recommended by a naturopath, I wouldn’t be against stoping now but my son won’t have it at the moment so I continue because I know it is still beneficial for both of us. Maybe you think I am a crazy hippie but if so, ask yourself why you think that and/or if you feel uncomfortable with the idea of extended breastfeeding, why?

In my experience people scoff at the idea of extended breast feeding because they don’t understand it. For some reason it is more logical in our culture to let our toddlers drink sugary juice and soda rather than let them continue to breast feed if they choose… does that seem healthy? Education about breast feeding is not widely distributed; parents, relatives and even some peers don’t have the proper info. Don’t worry grandparents, your grandchild will not want to breast feed through college or become unnaturally attached to mommy. A breast feeding mom and child needs to feel SUPPORTED by family and friends!

Here are some things you may not know about breastfeeding:

1) Breast milk is unique to each baby and it changes! When a baby is less than a week old the breast contains colostrum (before the milk comes in), it’s a thick yellowish fluid that is high in protein and contains antibodies, protecting baby from disease.  If the weather is hot a mothers breast milk will change to have more water to quench babies thirst. If the weather is cold the breast milk will often be more fatty and so on. Human breast milk is beneficial to all human babies so this doesn’t mean that if a mother is unable to breastfeed she can’t use a close relative or friends extra milk or get it from a milk bank.

2) Breast milk is complex and protective; because it is always changing it is difficult to study exactly what the levels of nutrients are but there are studies currently researching how colostrum and breast milk protect and heal the lining of of babies intestines (1). The nutrients in breast milk are also very bioavailable to baby. If mama has a healthy diet and is overall healthy the nutrients are very available and useable for baby, yes that even includes iron! Obviously, breast milk continues to contain bacteria that is beneficial for babes gut and therefore digestive system.

3) Breast milk has a unique scent; when my son was born at home with the assistance of registered midwives, they recommended that both baby and I wait at least a couple of days to shower. They explained, one reason for this is that the scent of the amniotic fluid still covering baby helps him to recognize and sniff out breast milk. My son can find my breast in the dark with his eyes closed, he will now latch on perfectly without any visual cue.

4) Breast milk is a cure all; diaper rash, cuts, baby acne, ear infections, babes stuffy nose, tummy troubles, nipple irritation etc… squeeze a bit of breast milk in the effected area and it’s the best healer possible, with properties that work like an antibiotic, anti-bacterial, anti-fungal and antiseptic.

5) Breast milk poop doesn’t stink; self explanatory…

6) Breast milk fights cancer; here’s one of the reasons i can (sort of) convince my family that extended breastfeeding is a good idea. It reduces my chances (mothers) of Breast and Uterine cancer, i can attest to this first hand! Prior to having my son I had tested for mild pre cancerous cells in my uterus. My past 2 years of breastfeeding I have been completely clear of them!!! (I had to get tested every 6 months)

7) BREAST MILK is MAGIC! For all the reasons stated and much more.

Therefore, breast feeding is natural and effective. It is not always easy and unfortunately not always possible, although there is not a high percentage of women who can’t actually breast feed and it is very dependant on baby’s birth process and support given. If the labor and delivery are natural and normal baby should be skin to skin ASAP! Feeding should begin soon after if there are no complications. As a Birth Doula I usually always see baby initiate feeding within the first hour by moving their little tongue and lips. If it’s not possible for skin to skin or to breast feed soon after birth manual expression within the first hour (see the Marmet Technique) gathered by a syringe and fed to baby is also a good way to establish milk and feed baby . It’s supply and demand so the more a baby is nursed the more milk is produced. Needless to say, I am not personally a fan of timing out babies feeding (ie. every 2 hours) each baby is different just like us, they should eat when they are hungry, DON’T LOOK AT THE CLOCK LOOK AT YOUR BABY.

ALSO, BABIES NURSE FOR MANY REASONS OTHER THAN HUNGER! baby loves the feeling of security, the sound of Mama’s heartbeat and the bonding that comes with this experience. Imagine yourself being introduced into a whole different universe and having a close reliable body that you know as opposed to a rocking chair to bounce in no matter how soft it feels. Kangaroo care (skin to skin/ or carrier/slings) establishes babies heart rate, breathing cycles, keeps them naturally warm and properly fed.

In my Yoga Teacher training manual it notes, ‘Karma Yoga can be practiced at all times, under all conditions, anywhere there is a desire to do a selfless service‘…. As can Breastfeeding! This is an awesome poem with that idea in mind:) 

We have many misconceptions about breastfeeding and even your family doctor may not be aware of recent research and how to solve breast feeding issues. Mothers are often convinced that a little suplimentation (ie. commerical formula) is a good idea even if you breast feed full time, why not right? We want our babies to have the best and most nutrients. BUT, formula is a product, and often if you check the label includes the same ingredients you may find in a package of hair color. If needed, it can be used as medicine but I don’t recommend stocking up prior to baby being born just in case. Babies who are formula feed are more susceptible to gas and bloating and therefore have a harder times sleeping and feeling comfortable. One can also find some great recipes for formula (DIY) in Sally Fallon’s Nourishing Traditions.

There are some pretty awesome resources to help with breastfeeding, here are a few:

http://www.breastfeedinginc.ca/

ABC Breastfeeding support (calgary)

La Leche league

Sources

(http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/5688590/Breast-feeding-protects-babies-from-stomach-damage-study-finds.html)

January 2010, La Leche League International: Establishing your milk

The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding, 7th edition; La leche league international

http://www.normalfeed.com; Feeding the baby

Skin to Skin and Kangaroo Mother Care; Studies by Dr. Nils Bergman and Agneta Jurisoo (Midwife)

Sivananda Yoga Teachers’ Training Manual

Actual Immunity

I don’t believe it is my place as a citizen, parent, friend or family member to tell you to get your family flu vaccinations or not. I think it is a wonderful thing that this is still a choice, it is a personal decision that should be researched on both sides and discussed with a trusted health practitioner. This is NOT a debate on either decision, as parents no matter what your choice has been you are doing it for the health of your child and community. I know people who are herbalists, engineers, yoga teachers, doctors, nurses and bio chemists who have vaccinated and have done their research. On the other hand I also know people who have their PHD’s in biochemistry, teachers, olympic athletes, chiropractors and health & wellness experts who have not vaccinated their children, they are not simply following some celebrity advice and they have read actual books (not just taken 30 min to browse the net) and spoken to real doctors. I tip my hat to all of those who have made informed decisions to come to the best conclusion for their families.

That being said what i do want to address here is that fact that I continuously hear health officials and politicians urging citizens to get vaccinated this ‘flu season’. Is this the only way we should/we can build our immunity? Does this sacred needle give me immunity as if I was on an episode of survivor? Just because I get this ‘immunization’ am I free to do/eat/drink whatever the heck I want? I am sure you are all smart enough to realize the answer to these questions…

Ah, the holiday season! A time to bake cookies, eat chocolate and stuff our children full of sugary candy canes. Wait a minute! Could this be one of the main causes of the ‘flu season’? But what about our traditions? You can’t have Christmas without sugar? Can you? Can you potentially put some honey or even maple syrup in your cookies instead? Maybe:)

Here is the thing that a lot of people seem to need to be reminded about; refined Sugar is a drug, it is addictive and it basically causes your white blood cells and macrophages (the big eaters) to react like Johnny Depp in Fear and loathing in Las vegas when he took too many drugs and tried to walk on that trippy carpet into the casino. When viruses and bacteria are introduced to our bodies our hero’s are too busy trippin’ out on sugar. And guess what, it does the same number on your children’s immune system. That is a very basic explanation and really just the tip of the iceberg. Refined sugar effects our whole body pretty negatively.

Just try to work sugar out of your diet and see how you feel; headaches, shakes, and total lack of focus. Imagine how a toddler feels with then without it. I know it is not easy to keep sugar away from your children, loving relatives want to make them happy, grandparents say, ‘it won’t kill them.’ Well, actually it can… and slowly.

So instead of us getting emotional and angry about people who do or don’t vaccinate, instead of staying at home in fear of going out and getting sick, instead of blaming other people we need to (especially as parents) step up and take responsibility for ourselves and our children. Get the refined sugar out of our cooking and cupboards! Sugar is NOT a holiday tradition, being amongst good family and friends with a healthy home cooked meal can be instead. Even ‘Santa’ doesn’t need sugary cookies… maybe he is the one spreading this ‘flu season’ around in the first place? He does come to everyones house to eat cookies, drink milk and drop off ‘presents;)’

All jokes aside, this is something that is very serious and totally controllable. I wanted to post this simply because i think it is basic common sense to stay away from all refined sugars, not easy though as we are constantly told how yummy sugary shit is. If you want to check out more resources on sugar, addiction and health I like; ‘Molecules of emotion’ by Candice Pert, Books, blogs and videos by Dr. Cate Shanahan, how toxic is sugar and Nourishing the Terrain are also a good read. It may take sometime to convince your children and their grandparents, but don’t give up and maybe use a different analogy then fear and loathing as they likely haven’t and shouldn’t have seen it 🙂 Once you draw a picture or create an animation for children to explain why sugar is bad for their bodies they have really great understanding and potentially memories of being sick and how to avoid the worst of it. There are various ways we can actually support our immune systems and getting a cold/flu about 2 times a year is normal and if dealt with properly can actually improve our immune systems. Our child’s eating habits begin before they are even born, so the best time to instil a healthy appetite for actual healthy real foods and to establish optimal gut bacteria and immunity is during pregnancy:) See this awesome video 🙂

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The Psoas muscle, birth & breath

I have seen and heard various information regarding the Psoas muscle lately and thought these serendipitous encounters are worth a share. In this Yoga International videoKathryn Heagberg talks about a fascial connection between the Psoas, the respiratory diaphragm and the pelvic floor diaphragm. I have become a big advocate of practices like Yoga Nidra during pregnancy and deep abdominal breathing and this helps put it into context for me. Deep inhalation lengthens and properly stretches our Psoas muscle! While searching through the Spinning babies website I came upon this quote:

Penny Simkin brought it up this summer in her talk about What We Don’t Know About the OP Baby.It is less important to know the fetal position than it is important to respond to the needs of the birth. The muscles, ligaments and bones may need accommodation regardless of fetal position. In other words, tension in the psoas pair of muscles or pelvic floor can delay an anterior baby and a posterior baby. Extension of the anterior fetus’ head can prevent engagement in some pelvises. The main point is that we can, when needed, promote progress regardless of fetal position.

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Photo taken from Web http://leelayoga.no/decoding-the-psoas-muscle/

The Psoas muscle (pronounced so-as) is the core muscle of the human body. Attaching to the spine at the 12th thoracic vertebrae (T12) and to each of the 5 lumbar vertebrae, the psoas flows through the pelvis it inserts into the lesser trocantor of the femur (leg) bone. A large massive muscle it is located one on each side of the spine and serves as a bridge between the trunk and the legs. The psoas is the only muscle to attach the spine to the leg allowing for free swing during walking.

While I do believe that a normal, natural level of simple exercise and stretching is important during pregnancy. Breathing properly in a relaxed atmosphere is most important!

There is much more I have to learn about the Psoas, birth, breathing and the body in general. But I found this so exciting I really wanted to share! Here is a quote from another site that has some great info on the Psoas:

An essential aspect of the fight-flight-freeze response, also known as the fear response, the psoas expresses our innate sense of safety. The psoas is both an instinctive as well as an emotionally responsive muscle and by tuning into this muscle (without the use of invasive or manipulative approaches), we can gain a deeper sense of calm, integrity, and empowerment.

Masala Dosa my style*

I love Masala Dosa (dosha), a south Indian dish that is eaten for breakfast, lunch, dinner or a snack! Here is my recipe (*), I have worked in my own style to this;-)

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DOSA:

5 cups of rice (I use brown rice, and buy a sealed pkg- I recently read about bulk brown rice going rancid easily)

3/4 cup of Urid Dal

*2tbs of Apple cider vingear

-Soak in water overnight or 8-12 hours to soften. The vinegar helps to reduce phytic acid and begins fermentation process.

-Blend until smooth ADD SALT (about 1tbsp +)and keep in ceramic or glass bowl to ferment for about 12 hours. If it is cold in the kitchen this process will take longer, you can keep it in a warm stove (turned off) overnight.

If you are making the Masala do it before cooking dosa.

-TO COOK: Place a ladle full on large non-stick pan or crepe pan. Draw a light circle beginning on the inside to the outside to make it a thin layer, being careful not to break the mix. You can put a small piece of butter or coconut oil on top for extra crispyness)

MASALA:

Potatoes (*sweet or red) (amount depends on how much you would like and size of potatoes)

Onion (1-2)

*Carrots (1) shaved

Beet root (1/2 small) shaved

*Kale (1-2 leaves)

mustard seeds (black)

Garlic (1-2)

Ginger 

green chili (1/4 slice)

Coconut oil

tumeric pwd

Coriander pwd

-Boil Potatoes until soft

-Heat coconut oil in a pan and add mustard seeds (allow to sputter), add onion, garlic, ginger and green chili. Fry, then add tumeric and coriander pwd. Add cut up/mashed(ish) potatoes, carrot and beet shavings and chopped kale. Fry until desired, add salt or braggs to taste. Put potato on top of Dosa, garnish with cilantro and voila!